A dishonest man spreads strife,
and a whisperer separates close friends.
–Proverbs 16:28
It’s an unfortunate reality today that gossip has become an acceptable sin for many Christians. But I think I’ve found a good way to stop the rumor mongering that’s so prevalent. When someone says something to you that’s gossip, simply ask, “Can I quote you on that?” Because if you can’t write it down and sign your name to it, you shouldn’t be saying it. On the other hand, if it’s real and valid, you ought to be able to sign your name to it!
Now, I know some people enjoy writing anonymous letters, many of which I’ve received. But I think it is one of the most cowardly things a person can do. That’s why anonymous letters that I receive go right in the trash.
But if someone writes a criticism about me and signs his name, then I pray about it and ask God to show me the truth in the accusation. If I’m wrong, I want to know it! But the criticism should be from someone who’s willing to sign his name.
Things shared in secret rarely have redeeming or purposeful value. In fact, I’d say they are most often sinful. So if you have a valid criticism against others, stand up and share it with them. Sign your name to it, and let it be their decision whether or not to receive it. Then you have a clear conscience, knowing you’re not guilty of gossip.
KEEP YOUR CONSCIENCE CLEAR BY BEING FORWARD WITH YOUR CRITICISMS AND AVOIDING HARMFUL GOSSIP AND ANONYMOUS SLANDER.
